How to Find Your Life’s True Purpose
There tends to come a point in life when we start to wonder what our true purpose in life is.
Perhaps we feel that we have lost our way, or haven't had a path mapped out in the first place.
Perhaps we have experienced a 'wake-up call' and have began to think more about what our life means to ourselves and to others.
Finding our life's true purpose isn't always easy, and it often doesn't show itself straight away. So how do we start to find it?
In this podcast episode, Clarity Junction host, Gillian, is here to point you in the right direction on how to find your life's true purpose.
Hello and welcome to the Clarity Junction podcast.
At some point we all ask the question ‘What is my true purpose in life?’.
It mostly happens after we have had a ‘wake-up call’ perhaps in the form of an illness, death of a loved one or a near-miss experience. These experiences make us take a reflective look at our own life and often at this point we realise that our life may not be heading in the direction that we thought it might. It may be that you never had a direction in the first place, but now you are starting to think that you should really have one.
It really makes us dig deeper and start to ask ourselves the big question, ‘What is my true purpose?’
So today, I am going to dive into this topic on how to find your life’s true purpose.
My name is Gillian Duncan, Positive Life and Wellbeing Coach, inspiring women to life the life they want, and I am delighted that you are here with me today.
Most of us had big dreams as a kid.
We knew what we liked, what we disliked and had an idea of how we wanted our future life to turn out.
As we grew up and moved into adulthood these dreams started to get a little faded and lost as we adapted into the world of work and responsibilities.
Eventually we began living life on autopilot and we lost those firm concepts of who we were and what inspired us.
This is really sad.
You see, I believe that everyone is here on Earth for a reason. We all have special gifts that we can use and share in our society to make the world a better place. However, very few of us actually tune in and act upon our ‘true purpose’. In fact, so many of us don’t have any idea as to what our ‘true purpose’ might be.
So, what do we mean when we talk about your ‘true purpose’? Well, when we talk about having a ‘true purpose’, we are describing the thing in life that really sparks our internal flame. The one thing that gets you out of bed in the morning. The reason behind what’s constantly driving you forwards.
Often, we forget or have never discovered our ‘true purpose’, and this can make us feel lethargic and often quite depressed. That’s why finding, or rediscovering your purpose is so important.
Let me take for example, the story of my friend Gayle Macdonald. Gayle lost her true purpose after she moved from her home country in the UK to Spain. This was a dream move for her and her family, and for a time, she loved the lifestyle that it brought. For one reason or another, however, she lost the focus of her purpose and soon she had replaced it with the habit of drinking alcohol.
As time passed and life wasn’t as she dreamed it would be, she realised that she had lost her drive for life, and that she needed to do something about it. That discovery led her to giving up alcohol completely.
As Gayle focused on her own healing and recovery, she began to realise just how easy it had become to slip into a lifestyle of drinking every day. Her eyes were open to a problem affecting our society. This realisation, and the desire to be a better mother to her children motivated her to switch to a life of sobriety.
By going through this process of sobriety Gayle now understands the damage drinking alcohol can cause to your life and relationships, and she has become passionate about helping others become sober, so that they can also live a better life.
Gayle describes this passion to help other women as her mission in life. Gayle has found her true purpose.
Gayle’s story is certainly inspirational, but she didn’t just wake up one day knowing this to be her true purpose. It took a long journey before she found her path in life.
Now, I’m sure that so many of you will be thinking that your true purpose in life is to care for your children, your partner or a loved one.
Although these are indeed noble and rewarding purposes for your life, they are not your sole reason for being here on this planet.
For example, when you are a mother, your time may be totally consumed by this wonderful job, especially in the early years. However, when the kids grow up and leave home to follow their own ‘true purpose’, where does that leave you?
What is your ‘true purpose’ now?
We all need to have a purpose in life that comes from our own inner self.
Our purposes can change – they are not set and that’s the true beauty. When you decide your purpose now, you don’t need to stick to it forever. You can change it.
For most of us, we don’t discover our true purpose overnight. We somehow stumble across it by accident, just like Gayle did.
Then when we do start to recognise it, it’s like a light bulb moment, when you start to feel that you have a goal and a mission in life, and nothing will stop you.
So, how can you begin this journey of finding your purpose?
Well, firstly, you don’t find it. You create it, built on your own strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes and most importantly, your inner beliefs.
Your ‘true purpose’ is not, in fact, lost, you’re just not in tune with it as you are waiting for it to find you, rather than you actively creating it.
So, start by grabbing a notebook and a pen and find a quiet, relaxed moment to sit down with a cuppa and get your thoughts written down.
Start by thinking about the things you enjoy in life. What hobbies do you like to participate in? Why do you enjoy them? Are you good at your hobby or are you passionate about them?
I mean, I love to knit, but I can’t say that I am passionate about it! Sure, it helps me to relax, but that’s really about it. Now, my real passionate hobby is music. That gets me inspired and talking!
Moving away from your hobbies, what other aspects of your life or work gets you motivated?
What do you spend your time chatting about with other people?
Where do you like to spend your time?
What aspects of your work do you enjoy?
What do you like to read? What fiction or non-fiction books do you enjoy?
List everything that drives you. You will soon have a list of your interests and passions in life.
By looking over the list, you may be able to find one area that stands out.
Once you discover this one area that drives you, start asking yourself, why this is the case. What is it about that subject that gets your pulse racing and your mind engaged?
Once you have this list, start moving your thoughts to how you could share your passion for the things you like with others.
Can you use your knowledge and experience to help others?
Could you teach?
Perhaps you could create something that would make life better for other people.
Perhaps you could take a stand with others and help support a cause that needs to be addressed better in society.
These are just ideas. Once you start taking the time to find more out about yourself and begin to understand what your beliefs are in life, you will open a door for more ideas and suggestions to flow.
Don’t worry if you don’t create a path to your purpose on your first sitting. That’s not how it works! Just keep hold of your notes and keep going back to them each time a thought enters your head. Note everything down and keep adding to your journal of self-discovery.
Now that you have started to think deeper about who you are and what you want from life, you have switched the focus on in your mind, so that even when you aren’t consciously thinking about creating your life’s purpose, your mind will be more aware of where you dedicate your focus and your energy during the waking hours, and it will be working away in the background, developing and creating your true purpose, without you even knowing.
So, you see, you don’t really ‘find’ your purpose in life. You create it.
It’s never entirely lost, it’s just perhaps changed direction, or you have withdrawn your energy and focus from it.
To embark on your life’s true journey, you must first become friends with yourself and get to know the person you are right now. Not the person you think you are, the person you were, or the person you think you ought to be. You need to let the past and future become a blur, and just for a while, focus on who you are right in this present moment, and don’t worry about any other versions of ‘you’.
Taking away this added pressure and stress, you will relax more and feel more at ease with your own self – and this is the state of mind that is required when you are seeking out answers in life.
The answers will come to you, this you must believe. Once you have started to ask the right question and reconnect with who you are, you will soon realise your life’s true purpose.
And my last comment regarding this process is that you should give yourself permission to enjoy this journey of self-discover. Take time over it and enjoy finding out about the things your like and dislike. Enjoy writing your notes and turn it in to a way that you can relax and have that one-to-one moment with yourself. By doing this, you are sure to discover your life’s true purpose, and this will help you to develop an amazing future for yourself.
That’s all for this episode.
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Thanks for listening.
Bye for now and keep being awesome!
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